How to Get Over Your Ex

But the rest of us left over, usually those who are very analytical and logical, have trouble processing deeply troubling situations. So, we replay the painful situation over and over again in our minds, searching for an answer. But the problem is, the answer cannot be found in the rational mind, because the problem is on an emotional plain. Therefore, the solution has to come from the heart, which needs to be healed and restored. Here is the step by step process I have adapted to end obsessive thinking about an Ex:

Step 1:

Don’t take anything your Ex ever said or did personally, because nothing your Ex ever said or did was about you. Even if your Ex downright blames you for everything that went wrong in your relationship, realize their statement is only coming from who they are, which has absolutely nothing to do with the person you are.

Step 2:

However, not taking your Ex personally is a two sided coin. If during the heat of an argument you react and tell your Ex what an idiot THEY are, and how everything is THEIR fault, then it has nothing to do with them. Your statements only reflect the kind of person you are, which is a person who likes to blame and judge. This has nothing to do with your Ex. Therefore, consciously make an effort to be the person you are, regardless of how your Ex is behaving. Make a list of all the qualities you admire in others, for example: kindness, confidence, compassion, and respect. Chances are you already possess the qualities within yourself. Be very careful not to make statements that don’t reflect who you are, even when you may be tempted to give into the hurt and anger you feel.

Step 3

Release your judgments and opinions by becoming friends with Death. As morbid as this sounds, realize that in 100 years, you and your Ex will likely be dead, and nothing you ever fought about will be remembered. If your Ex has the obsessive need to be right and argue with you about everything, give in to their whim and say, “You are absolutely right.” Not only will this reinforce your relationship with Death and save you a tremendous amount of personal power, your Ex will find it impossible to argue with you because you are giving the non-verbal message that it really doesn’t matter. As one my favorite authors Wayne Dyer once said, “Have you ever noticed how hard it is to argue with someone who isn’t obsessed with being right?”

Step 4:

If the hurt and anger is overwhelming, distance yourself from your Ex completely. And no matter what, get on your knees and pray for your Ex every morning. Pray that your Ex will be granted all of the health, wealth and happiness you wish for yourself. Even if you are not a religious person, or you don’t believe in God, the act itself is liberating.

In twelve step programs, such as Alcoholics Anonymous, they are taught to pray for people they have a deep resentment towards. At first, you will not mean a word of the prayer. But if you say the prayer consistently for two weeks, you will come to genuinely mean it, and find that there is a part of you that realizes your Ex is just a human being, with their own imperfections, weaknesses and short comings. If you go deeper, you will realize your Ex may also be a very hurt and scared person – even if they outwardly seem very hostile, aggressive and manipulative. Of course, no matter what happened to your Ex in their childhood or even in their day to day life – it does not give them a reason to mistreat you. But by being aware of the fact that your Ex has a certain set of issues to deal with on their own time, it will help you replace the hurt and anger you feel with compassion and understanding.

Step 5:

Own your personal power. Because when you are who you are, regardless of the situation or circumstance that comes your way, then this transforms you into a very powerful person. This is the step that absolutely baffles your Ex, because by you being who you are, and not letting them get you down – it sends your Ex the non-verbal message that you are who you are and they are who they are. But most importantly, it tells your Ex that you are not going to take any of their crap! When you respond to your Ex’s hostility with kindness, and your Ex’s blame with compassion, it frustrates them to no end, because your Ex cannot get you to play their game.

Step 6:

Come to understand that you are doing all of this work for no other reason than to realize who you are, restore your sense of balance, and reclaim your personal power. If you do all of this work in order to manipulate your Ex, and make them want you back, your Ex will subconsciously sense your intentions, because at one point or another, you will slip and let your intentions be known without realizing it. When this happens, you will give all of your power back to your Ex, and will have to start all over again with Step 1.

Step 6 is often tricky, because if you master each step up to this point, your Ex may very well want to reconcile. At the very least, your Ex will begin responding to the kindness you send their way in a positive fashion. But regardless if you want to get back together with your Ex, just be friends, or just get over the obsessive thinking – remember your sole purpose is to realize who you are, restore your sense of balance, and reclaim your personal power. If you do all of this work just to manipulate your Ex into responding the way you want them to, it may work for a very short period of time. But I guarantee your Ex will pick up on the fact that your intentions are not genuine, and you will lose your personal power. Not only that, but when you genuinely become who you are, you attract the right kind of people to your life. And maybe your Ex is not the person you are meant to be with! And the only way you will know if you are meant to be with your Ex or anyone else is if you are genuinely who you are.

Step 7:

Forgive your Ex, no matter what they did or didn’t do. Unfortunately, it may not be enough at this point to say, “I forgive my ex.” And leave it at that. Forgiveness has little to do with words, and more to do with action. Before proceeding with this step, I recommend reading up on the topic of forgiveness, and reading heroic stories about the power of forgiveness. I once read a story about a woman whose daughter was brutally raped and murdered by a man that was eventually caught and sent to prison. As anyone can imagine, the woman spent years of her life in rage and obsession over what this man had done to her daughter. I am sure there are no words to express how much pain this woman was feeling. However, she somehow stumbled on a book entitled, The Course of Miracles and began reading about what the power of forgiveness could do for her. She started to pray for the man, and eventually sent him a letter, letting him know she had forgiven him for the actions he took against her daughter, even though she didn’t condone his behavior. To make a long story short, the man wrote the woman back and apologized profusely. The woman felt compelled to see this young man in prison, and she held him as he cried during their first visit. To make a long story short, they became friends, and she became his number one advocate in attempts to release him from prison.

There are not a lot of people walking on the planet as courageous as this woman, but it is an extreme example of what is possible within each one of us. I thought about this woman before I reached out to my Ex with forgiveness in my heart. I sent a gift to my Ex and the woman my Ex left me for, which seemed to pale in comparison to this woman’s story. Of course, it took me a little over a year to reach that point, and a lot of soul searching. To this day, I love my Ex with all of my heart on a platonic level. We live in two totally different cities, but still call and send each other emails on occasion as good friends.

I am also in a healthy relationship with someone I am deeply in love with. Next week will be our two year anniversary. I do not think I would be as happy and as deeply in love with this new person as I am now, had I not let go of the anger, bitterness, and resentment I once felt towards my Ex, which is another reason why forgiveness is so important.

A lot of people believe turning off your feelings for a person you once were in a romantic relationship with, or even hating them is a way to show that they are “over” the person. But I believe the exact opposite is true. When you are completely “over” a person, you really wish them nothing but the best – and you are totally detached emotionally from how they act or react. Another point to consider is the fact that love isn’t real unless you loved your Ex for the person they are, not the person you wanted them to be. And just because the romantic relationship didn’t work out, doesn’t mean your Ex isn’t a lovable person.

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Letter Writing: Write Formal & Informal Letters & Notes

Writing letters communicate best. Letter writing is joy to loved ones apart. Telephone calls are never enough. They like also to receive, write letters. Personal letters can be re-read. People in love write letters. Writing letters is dreamy. Boys who write letters are popular. Girls love receiving letters. Writing letters get one remembered when not together or telephoning. Family members away like to also to receive, write letters. Friends away like to receive, write letters. Pen friends write letters. Letter writing is communication, essential literacy –and it’s fun.

One writing letters can take one’s time to think of all the things that one can not remember when together or telephoning to say. In business writing letters clarify. Personal letters are keepsakes. Some things are said easier by writing letters, some better by not writing letters but notes. Writing letters are pleasing, effective. Notes can be nice. Here is how to write a letter, personal letters.

Letter writing, whether by post, fax, or e-mail falls into three categories. In each letter writing category the approach is different. How to write a letter depends on why one is writing a letter.

… Personal letters are often letters to family members, boyfriends or girlfriends, friends or pen friends -often friendly letters.

… Semiformal letters are often routine letters to e.g., order or return goods, instruct on delivery, or to confirm or request information -acquaintances also sometimes write letters semi-formally.

… Formal letters are often non-routine. Writing a letter formally implies officialdom -most seldom write letters formally.

Letter writing scares many people. Many don’t know how to write a letter or note. The following all there is to writing letters.

>>> Writing Personal Letters

To write letters to loved ones, friends away please. They like news about you, personal letters –especially if you write letters interestingly. Write letters cheerfully. Write a letter to cheer up. When you write a letter appreciate, praise, credit them. Write letters as if who you are writing a letter to is there, you are talking: “Oh, this tea’s cold! Anyway, I decided to write a letter…”

In writing personal letters, how intimately you write a letter depends on what is acceptable to who you are writing the letter. Unless you know it’s all right, don’t e-mail, fax or post loved ones or friends personal letters at a workplace; it may embarrass, cause problems if others see your letter. Privately communicate letters.

Letter writing is easiest when one is writing personal letters. If you can’t think of much to write in your letter other than “Hi!” or “I’m well…” and “How are you?” (which always pleases), don’t postpone writing your letter. A glance at a newspaper will show interesting things to write in your letter. When you write a letter do gossip -it’s liked in personal letters. Remember this when writing personal letters. Be interesting when you to write a letter.

In letter writing it matters: include a joke or two in personal letters. Loving or funny verses please in personal letters. When you write a letter remember: in personal letters a picture of you delights. In writing letters, if appropriate, drawing a flower, heart, kiss makes personal letters loved. Write letters that ask opinions of persons you write personal letters to, even if it’s only “Good, huh?” or “Nice, don’t you think?” Such letter writing makes you interesting, popular with those you write personal letters to.

>>> Writing Semiformal Letters and Formal Letters

In writing a letter keep to the point. Letters in these categories are often short letters about personal dealings with businesses, e.g., to instruct a bank to make or cancel a regular payment, or query a return, refund, or a job. They may be long, detailed letters but still simple, easy to write letters. When you write a letter keep a copy.

>> Letters received can be, e.g., asking you to confirm something.

When writing a letter replying to such letters write your contact details at the top right corner of the letter, their address at the top left corner of the letter; add the date, and their letter’s reference.

In your letter address them as they have you. Begin the letter by stating their letter’s date, e.g., “Thank you for your letter of ….”

Continue the letter, in a new paragraph. Be brief, simple, e.g., “This is to confirm that …” End your letter as ended their letter.

>> Letters sent to businesses to complain, request information, apply.

In writing a letter to a business, address, date your letter, state their reference as above. If you know the name of the person you are writing a letter to, begin “Dear Mr./Mrs./Miss./Ms. …” If not, in your letter address the reader as “Dear Sir/Madam” or “Dear Sirs.” Ensure to state under it their order/invoice number. Keep your letter simple. When writing business letters, if began ‘Dear Mr. …’, end “Yours sincerely”; if ‘Dear Sir’, “Yours faithfully.”

> Letters of complaint are important. Before writing a letter of complaint, if annoyed, cool off -make tea, telephone friends. You are writing a letter to get a desired response -you are less likely to if you write an angry letter. Businesses in writing letters like to appear fair -business letters try, when you write a letter politely.

When you write letters of complaint say what is wanted clearly, simply, e.g., “I have not yet received a refund for … I enclose a copy of the returns-note/receipt. I look forward to hearing from you.” Add any enclosures to the letter of complaint. Keep copies.

> Letters requesting information can be personal letters but must be clear. Write a letter simply ask for the information want. In writing letters requesting information on subjects you don’t know much about, it helps to end your letter “… and any other details you may deem useful’. Writing letters so brings more information.

> Letters of application for a job or a grant should have wider margins for reader-notes, and bear in mind any closing dates. When you write a letter of application briefly emphasize how you meet the criteria. Say ‘available for interview’, and do print your name.

>> Letters to officials may need to be long, detailed; but writing letters that are so is easy. You may have to write letters arguing with business or official letters received; or to explain, detail, enclose documents; or write a letter to summon a politician’s aid.

Writing letters that are official does not require high literacy. Not high literacy but method involves writing letters that are official.

When you write a letter to deal with letters requesting specific details and documents, in your letter simply respond in the order they are listed. Where business letters or other official letters request details generally, or if you are initiating correspondence by a writing a letter, first draft your letter -it helps in writing a letter.

Letters are easily, best drafted thus: For your letter’s rough copy use lined paper. Draft your letter in pencil, leaving every other line blank. Jot down and number the points you will raise in the letter. Then stop working on your letter.

Take a break from writing your letter; do something unrelated to writing a letter. You want to write a letter to make those points. Let your mind ‘digest’ the points you will raise in your letter.

Later look at your letter again, put other points that occur to you on the blank lines. Re-number the points of your letter as you think logical. But don’t hurry up to write a letter, yet. Sleep on it.

Then look at the draft letter, amend as necessary, write your letter.

Begin your letter by stating clearly what you want. End the letter briefly, simply, clearly repeating what you want.

When letter writing ends, enclose copies of any documents in the order of your letter’s points -number, list them if they are many.

How to write a letter that is complicated is that easy and simple -that makes seemingly difficult to write letters easy to write letters.

>>> Addressing Letters –how to address an envelope

>> The Address: Sender’s address goes, in the USA on the top left corner, in the UK & most others on back on flap (in the latter without sender’s name, if address only will do) -addressee’s address, former’s centered, latter’s left-aligned, on front 1/2 [USA 1/3] from top ~’Attention’ [‘FAO'] on first line, flat/apartment/suite/dept. number ( if won’t fit on same line), in the former after street line, in the latter before (single digit flat/house/street numbers are written as words); zip/postal-code normally after city-name, in the latter (if to another country) after country-name. When you write a letter, these avoid delay.

>> The Title: ‘Miss’ has no dot after it; ‘Esq.’ or ‘Sr.’ or ‘Jr.’ has comma before it but not, e.g., ‘II’; boy under 13 is ‘Master’ unmarried girl over 18 or women if living with partner is ‘Ms.’ (if to both partners, on separate lines, without ‘and’ or ‘&’, in alphabetical order); for the divorced, if retain same surname, include first name; if ‘Mr. & Mrs.’ and only surname (e.g., Jones) man’s name first, if using first names man’s (last) immediately before surname (if formal and woman outranks man, e.g., academic ‘Prof.’ & ‘Dr.’, in rank order [if married, alphabetically] ~if of equal rank and not using first names don’t abbreviate the title [e.g., ‘Professors Jones & Smith'] but if using first names do for both [e.g., ‘Prof. Peter Jones' and ‘Prof. Patricia Smith'] –if together to friends or colleagues in order of importance to you, and, if family or children, in age order).If unsure about a formal title, check ~e.g., the US’s chief warrant officers are not ‘Mr.’ but ‘Mister’, the UK’s surgeons are not ‘Dr.’ or ‘Surgeon’ but ‘Mr.” and women justices never ‘‘Miss Justice’. In formal letter writing incorrect titles may annoy.

> When writing letters, if to officials or business letters, fold twice to 1/3 of page; if you are writing a letter to meet, allow 4-6 weeks [if from afar 6-8], if awaiting confirmation 2 more weeks –if expected to enclose postage for reply from another country, use international reply coupons [‘Union Postale'] ~unless ‘thank you’ notes don’t use address labels. Often at basic weight-steps small-packets or printed matter cost less if sent letter-rate.

>>> Writing Personal Notes

Unlike writing letters, notes are informal -sometimes important.

> Routine notes may not be important: “Your dinner’s in the oven,” or to the milkman: “Two bottles today, please.”

>> Social etiquette notes that are expected may be important. Many do not write letters to socially invite or let another know that one will attend a party, or to thank another. Instead of writing letters they write social notes -to acquaintances, or strangers. As in letter writing, notes cause impressions to be formed about one.

These brief notes have the same tone as when writing letters informally, but must be courteous and polite. In inviting someone, one example is: “Hi, Nancy.. I’m having my birthday party, on ….., and it’d be so nice if you too could come. Love, Jenny.” Another example is: “Dear Mr. & Mrs. … we are having a house-warming party on ….. and we would love to have you too. Yours, Jo & Joe.” In accepting an invitation one example is: “How nice! See you then! Jenny.” Another example is: “So kind of you to invite us too -we will both be delighted to attend. Yours, Eric.” If you are courteous, polite, recipients will mention you favourably when they write letters, will speak well of you in your social circles.

>> Sympathy notes must be written carefully. These are e.g., get-well notes, sometimes on cards; or, to express condolences to someone who is in mourning -when most do not write a letter but a note.

> A get well note or card, whether to a close relative away and you also write a letter, or on its own, is always more appreciated if one adds a personal touch to it. For example, if to a friend and it is not serious, “Don’t take your time about getting well -we haven’t finished our chess game yet…”; if to a friend, and it is serious, “I’ll pray for your speedy recovery.” An example, if it is to someone you hardly know and are sending it as the done-thing in your social or business circles, is: “I will look forward to hearing of your recovery from mutual friends and colleagues.”

>In bereavement cases never try to cheer up in a sympathy note with a joke; however well meant, in one’s grief it may be deemed unfeeling, inappropriate!.. Leave the comforting to the mourner’s loved ones from whom more than a sympathy note is considered appropriate! Be, or appear, sincerely saddened by the loss. Clearly state so: “I am saddened by the news of …’s death.” Say: “I am so sorry to hear of your loss.” Show so by emphasizing it, e.g., “… he/she will be greatly missed.” Unless a loved one writing a letter too, if you don’t attempt to comfort, it will be appreciated.

>> Notes to loved ones matter most. On an anniversary or birthday greeting never be satisfied with what’s on the greeting card. Even if to a loved one away and accompanied by a loving letter, always personalize the card with a few words of your own, e.g., “Miss you!” or “Love you!” or “Take care.”

The feelings of parents are -from a poem by the Cypriot thinker writer poet teacher the late Orhan Seyfi Ari:

“With us he was, in our nest, only yesterday…
How quickly has he grown wings, like a bird, flown away!”

As in personal letters, it shows that you are not greeting as the done thing -that you care.

Anyone can write a letter. Family/friends away appreciate letters.

A site on the thinker-witer-poet, the late, extraordinary Teacher Ari orhanseyfiari.com

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Thigh Exercises For Women

 

This means that women must not only do the right thigh exercises, but also include aerobic exercise and sound nutrition to get best results. The following exercises are the most effective front thigh exercises for women. The routine also includes inner thigh and rear thigh exercises.

For best results, start with 15-20 repetitions and one set. Increase gradually to 2 sets. Complete the routine at least 2 times a week for best results. This is an effective beginner to intermediate toning program. Please remember that these numbers are general guidelines only. For an optimum program tailored to your needs, please consult a certified personal trainer. If you have any injuries or medical ailments, please obtain a physicians clearance before starting any exercise program.

Wall Squat: Front Thigh Exercise

Starting Position: – Place your upper back against a smooth wall. Stand with your feet shoulder width apart, toes pointed slightly outward. Distribute your body weight equally between both feet and lean back against the wall. Movement: – Inhale, keeping your heels in contact with the floor at all times, slowly lower into a squat position while sliding down the wall. Exhale as you slowly straighten your legs, keeping your head and chest up, returning to the starting position. Repeat as required.

Standing Dumbbell Squats: Front Thigh Exercise

Starting Position:- Hold a dumbbell in each hand and allow them to hang down at your sides. Stand with your feet shoulder width apart, toes pointed slightly outward. Distribute your body weight equally between both feet. Movement:- Inhale, keeping your heels in contact with the floor at all times, slowly lower into a squat position. Exhale as you slowly straighten your legs, keeping your head and chest up, returning to the starting position. Repeat as required. 5 lb dumbbells work well, but you can start with 2 lbs and then work your way up to 5 lbs within 3-5 weeks.

Lunges: Front Thigh Exercise

Starting Position: – Assume a standing position with your feet slightly less than shoulder width apart. Grasp a barbell with a wider than shoulder width grip and place it across your shoulders. Movement: – Inhale, keeping your back vertical and slightly arched, slowly step forward with one leg making a long stride, lowering your body down slowly until your rear knee lightly touches the floor (if you cannot go as low as this, then work your way up to it over 2-3 weeks). Exhale and shift your weight backwards, taking one step (or 2-3 small steps if that sounds difficult) to return to the starting position. Repeat on the other side. Remember to consult your doctor before this or any other knee exercises if you have had any knee trouble!

Lying Face Down: Front Thigh Stretch

Starting Position: Lie on your stomach on a matt with your legs together. Movement: Reach behind you and grasp your right ankle with your left hand. Pull your right heel up as far as you can. Hold this position for thirty seconds. Repeat as required on other side. Please remember to hold for 10 seconds for this stretch.

Seated Split Stretch: Inner Thigh Stretch

Starting Position: Sit on an exercise matt and spread your legs as far as you can. Movement: Lean to your right side and reach for your toes. Rest your hands on your toes or at your ankle. Hold this position for thirty seconds. Repeat as required on other side.

Seated Butterfly: Inner Thigh Exercise

Starting Position: Sit on an exercise matt with your back straight. Movement: Bring the soles of your feet together and pull them in as close to your body as you can. Allow your hands to rest on your feet or to apply light pressure to your thighs. Hold this position for thirty seconds. Hold this position for 10 seconds. You will find this most effective if you gently push your knees down using your hands, be careful not to push too much.

Seated Hip Twist: Outer Thigh And Rear Thigh Exercise

Starting Position: Sit on an exercise matt with your legs straight out in front of you. Movement: Bend your right knee and place your right foot over your left leg. Wrap your arms around your right knee and gently pull it in towards your left shoulder. Hold this position for thirty seconds. Repeat as required on other side. Remember to hold for 10 seconds.

Lying Leg Pull: Total Thigh Exercise

Starting Position: Lie on your back on an exercise matt with your knees in the air and feet flat on the floor. Movement: Bring your right heel to rest on your left thigh. Loop your hands around your left thigh and pull it towards your chest. Hold this position for thirty seconds. Repeat as required on other side. Remember to hold for 10 seconds in each set.

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Causes of Chest Pain

 

Chest pain is always being thought to be a heart attack. In fact, typical heart attack pain occurs in the mid to left side of the chest and may also extend to the left shoulder, the left arm, the jaw, the stomach, or the back. Having chest pain is a very horrifying and frightening experience that a person can have. It is sometimes difficult even for a doctor or other medical professional to tell what is causing chest pain and whether it is life-threatening. Based on my own experience, there are two things that come to mind when it comes to chest pain. The first is a pinched nerve. I had this happen because I would get a pinched nerve in the side of my ribcage and it would result in sudden sharp pains, almost like someone zapped me with an electric shock.

Basically, my doctor said it just would get better on it’s own which is always lovely news. The other thing that comes to mind when I have chest pain is anxiety and stress. I used to have a mild anxiety problem and when this chest pain first occured, I knew nothing about what it was and basically I thought that I was encountering a “heart attack”.

Difference Between Stress Chest Pain & Heart Attack Chest Pain

Stress Chest Pain

Heart Attack Chest Pain

• Sharp pain in the mid to left side of the chest
• Tightness in either the left or right chest
• Shortness of breath
• Difficulty breathing
• Abdominal discomfort
• Heartburn

• Intense and Excruciating pain
• Shortness of breath or Rapid breathing
• Rapid heart rate
• Nausea or vomiting
• Lightheadedness
• Dizziness
• Fainting
• Abdominal pain
• Sweatiness
• Unexplained fatigue

I would experience the exact same thing, pain and shortness of breath. Sometimes the pain gets tight, and with each breath I inhale, the chest pain get sharper and tighter. There are many people who get worried too much when they suffered from chest pain, worse still, some even think that they are going to die. These people will usually call an ambulance or quickly rush to the nearest clinic to see a doctor. Of course, I would agree that seeing a doctor is the most clever choice. However, usually the doctor would examine your heart rate and ask you specifically on where is the chest pain position. They will then ask you whether you have any heart-related diseases or problems before which most people do not have such a problem.

Next, they would prescribe Aspirin or maybe a small dose of Xanax, which you can take only when you feel that way, or perhaps a once-a-day antidepressant with a very small dose. All these drugs are used to treat anxiety, stress and depression. Many people suffer from recurring bouts of chest pain over several years, while the healthcare services are unable to find out what’s causing it. Hence, my point is that chest pain is usually related to stress build-up if you do not have any history of heart-related medical conditions.

If you are uncomfortable with medications and drugs, then the next most effective way to stop your chest pain is to have deep breathing and simply RELAX. You have to keep your mind clear of any rapid thoughts, perhaps read, watch a show, call a family member of friend to chat with, or indulge in something else that you enjoy. In my own experience, whenever I have a chest pain which is very tight and sharp until I’ve difficulty breathing, I would tell myself to calm down and start to take a very deep breath in and slowly exhale out. I would do this repetitively for at least 6 times and my chest pain will slowly vanish.

If you are experiencing chest pain every now and then and you do not have any heart-related medical conditions, then I am sure that you are suffering from stress chest pain. The only immediate self-help that you should do is to inhale a deep breath slowly and deeply and then exhale the air out pacefully.

Try this:

1. Relax, take a slow deep (as deep as you can) breath through your nose.

2. Hold for a few seconds.

3. Now breath out, *slowly*, through pursed lips.

This is an almost perfect and effective way to stop your stress chest pain immediately. Make sure after your chest pain has gone, you should continue to relax and continue doing deep breathing for another 5 minutes or so. Remember to relax your muscles and clear your mind of any negative and rapid thoughts.

Nonetheless, if your chest pain continues and you are experiencing it very often, you should immediately seek medical help by visiting a qualified doctor. The reason is that the doctor is much better person to differential between chest pain and heart attack efficiently.

Chest pain often has a negative impact on the sufferer’s daily life in the form of tiredness, anxiety and fear of death. One of the main differences between women and men with unexplained chest pain is that men were more likely to perceive their lives and jobs as being stressful, while women tended more to suffer from symptoms of depressions and anxiety.

When compared with a reference group of people who were not suffering from heart disease, both men and women, experienced more symptoms of depression and anxiety, and work-related stress. From research, both the men and the women with unexplained chest pain led a more sedentary lifestyle. Hence, it is important that we exercise regularly, eat well, sleep well and approach life easily and happily. Our well-being serves a very important aspect of contributing to the overall good health of ourselves. We must conquer our stress by learning to take things easily.

Hence, the next time you experience unexplained and sudden chest pain, do not believe the chest pains indicate a serious health challenge as you may further tighten the muscles, increasing stress chest pains. Think positively! Learn to relax and start your deep breathing exercise. Inhale as deep as you can and then exhale out slowly and pacefully. Nonetheless, you must seek medical help immediately if your chest pain does not stop or become worse.

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Causes of Chest Pain

How to make unique DVD birthday slideshow gift

There are memories that are forgotten, and there are memories that will last a lifetime. A personalized DVD slideshow is a wonderful and heartwarming way to keep your precious moments forever.

what you’ll need:

1. Memorable Birthday Pictures
2. Birthday Slideshow Maker(I Recommend Photo Story Platinum)

Birthday Slideshow Making step 1 Add birthday pictures:
Download Photo Story Platinum Free Trial Version (which is easy to use for birthday slideshow making) and install it! Once open, you will start from photo set, where you can import your birthday pictures through the Double-click the empty area at the bottom to add background music

Birthday Slideshow Making Step 2 : Choose Style :
There are versatile slideshow styles that can be can be used for many different occasions… birthdays, anniversaries, holidays, reunions, memorials, businesses… and much more. Preview animated styles first and then double click or drag & drop your selected styles to the Story Board.You can also choose Add Random Styles.

Burn Birthday Slideshow DVD or create videos
It’s time now to burn your pictures slideshow onto birthday slideshow DVD or create birthday slideshow video in various formats. Play the birthday slideshow DVD on TV or share on YouTube with others from worldwide.

Upload video to YouTube

After you creating the MP4 file,login your youtube account,choose “Account” and click Upload button, and then select Upload a video, write down your video title and description. It’s better to enter tag for easily searched by others.

Download Photo Story Platinum Free Trial Version and have a try!

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Compulsive Lying:

 

Reasons for Lies

There are reasons that you may feel obligated to stretch the truth. When you have a compulsion to lie, there is a deep psychological force driving you to this behavior. This force rests in your subconscious mind. It is necessary to address it directly in order to overcome your habit.

Some people lie because they are afraid that the truth is not interesting enough. Others feel the urge because there is an element of excitement in getting away with it. In some cases, the lies are simply reflexive in nature. They are habits that are difficult to break.

Stop Compulsive Lying

If you want help to stop lying, you can begin by determining how severe your problemreally is. You may find that you really don’t stretch the truth too often but the problem is enough that it has led you to find support. Identifying the problem, no matter how minor, is a great first step.

A compulsion is a very difficult thing to break. This is because there is a driving force that leads you to the behavior. When you can’t stop telling lies, you may have an emotional or psychological reason for doing so. The bottom line, though, is that the behavior needs to stop before it interrupts your life.

Addressing the Behavior

There are a couple schools of thought when it comes to a person’s behavior. Some suggest that it is necessary to delve deep into the reasons that a person behaves the way that he does. Others suggest that you are better off simply addressing the behavior directly to rehabilitate yourself.

Hypnosis is a merging of the two schools of thought. You are able to delve deep into your subconscious mind, which allows you to work through the complex inner emotions and motivations. You are also able to change your behavior by changing your thought patterns.

Self-Hypnosis Recordings

A self-hypnosis CD is a viable option that helps you break the habit of telling lies. This approach is ideal because you can get the support you need in a discrete manner and in the privacy of your own home.

You can find an excellent recording by Debbie Williams, an experienced hypnotherapist and NLP trainer, here – More details. Debbie’s work is effective because she offers many years of experience along with a strong clinical background as well. Other recordings can be found here – Justbewell. The information you need is available when you click on the links.

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How To Improve Memory Power In 5 Minutes

Mental exercise is the key to boost memory power. Shortage of physical exercise makes the body inactive and lethargic, and absence of psychological exercise does the same thing to the mind. Train your mind frequently by repeating to yourself anything you need to remember as quickly as you learn it. This is very useful especially when remembering phone numbers and dates. Repetition is a simple system on how to improve memory power, but it works even for long term memory.

Another great psychological exercise is to envision how you’re going to use the information in the future. As an example, when you meet an individual for the 1st time, imagine meeting him or her again after some time. That way, you are sure to remember the person’s name when you meet again. You can also use other mnemonic methods like rhymes and word associations that may train you on how to improve memory power.

Do you have difficulty with teaching your brain to remember things? Let tools like paper and pen help you. Write down any significant information on a sheet of paper or a sticky note so that you can easily recall it when needed.

Mental exercises as one of the strategies on how to improve memory power won’t necessarily turn you into a genius, but they actually will help you to eliminate forgetfulness.

There is an amazing program that allows you to show dramatic learning improvement in just 5 minutes. You will learn how to drastically improve memory power, increase reading speed and comprehension, have better time management, and develop total concentration.

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How to Tell if a Guy Likes you

 

Here are five signs that he is interested in you too. If any of the following happens, he is probably trying to get close enough to ask you out:

1. He tells someone

Is he interested? He likes you if he tells a mutual friend that he wants to know more about you, or he asks other people who you are and where you’re from. He is trying to act like he’s “just asking” but his questions indicate more than a casual interest. And when he tells someone that he finds you attractive, he probably knows that it will get back to you. He’s hoping it does.

2. The look

He gives you a look that betrays his calm exterior. Even though he is across the room, “that look” he has says it all. It is sweeping, from your head to your toes, and then his eyes linger on yours. You think you notice the beginning of a tentative smile.

3. The conversation

Does he like you? When he manages to get close enough to you, to ask you questions, he is interested. He appears to be listening and responds to what you say. He’s moving in to the ultimate question, which is: “Are you seeing anyone.” He would only ask this question if he wanted to date you, and he hopes the answer is “No.” Never ever wear a ring in public. When a guy is across the room, he cannot tell which finger it is on and he may assume incorrectly that you are taken. If he doesn’t ask you the question of whether or not you are attached, he may ask someone whom you both know.

4. He appears unexpectedly

He likes you a lot if he shows up out of nowhere. He can only do that if he has been asking people about your schedule, or he has been paying attention to where you are going and at what time. His face may turn red when he sees you. A sudden, “Oh, hi,” is his way of saying, “I don’t want to seem obvious, but I am interested in you.” If you feel the same way, do not act shy. Stop and talk to him.

5. EVERYONE likes you

Is he interested? When you are well liked and a happy person, why wouldn’t he like you? Of course he does. If you don’t have a great life, however, now is your time to start working on one. Take a look at your career possibilities, body image, future, plans, and resources. You may be naturally talented at something, but it won’t matter unless you work on your strengths. Misused or unused talents fade away. School and training do not.

These are the five signs that he is interested and he is on the verge of asking you out. Make it easy for him and be friendly. This is where relationships begin.

Do you want to know more secrets about how to attract men? Do you know how to dress, what to say, what to do, and the body language to use when you go out? Do you know the 5 steps to take to meet any guy anywhere? Read on to discover all the secrets to having all the dates you want in How To Attract Men: Secrets Every Woman Should Know

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365 Reasons Why I Love You - Tell Someone How Much They Mean To You

Giving a gift to show a person how much they mean to you does not have to cost a fortune, In fact there is no better way to show your love than to spend some time making a list of 365 reasons why I love you.

When writing your list of 365 reasons why I love you, try not to focus too much on physical things, consider the persons likes, dislikes, things they say and most importantly the little gestures they make that make you smile.

An example of some of the reasons you could use when compiling your list of 365 reasons why I love you could be:

Your strength
Your devotion
How you are always 100% honest no matter what
Your kindness
Your smile
The way you are always happy first thing in the morning when I am grumpy
The way you take pride in how you look
The compliments you give me
The way you touch my face when we kiss
The little looks you give me when we are around friends
Your loyalty to me and everyone or everything that matters to you
Your compassion for everyone around you
Your selflessness
Your integrity
Your strength
Your devotion
The way you hold me
The way you liven up a room just by being in it
How much you have taught me about life and myself
Your intelligence
The fact that you are good at fixing things or putting things together by hand
Your zest for life
I love to wake up with you by my side It makes my days better.
You always make me feel that you are by my side no matter what.
I love that feeling of being secure when you wrap your arms around me
I love the way you keep your cool when I do something stupid.
Just being with you feels like I can defy the whole world.
You mean the world to me.
I like your small gestures that speak volumes about how much you care.

Once you have written your list of 365 reasons why I love you it may be a good idea to have a card made and place the list inside. You may even want to read the list to your partner over a romantic dinner. However you decide to present your list of 365 reasons why I love you, make sure you have taken time to list everything that means something to you, sometimes the silly things that people do are the things that make us love them even more.

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De-Escalation Techniques:

Attempting to reason with those who use anger to intimidate, control, get attention, avoid responsibility, or pump themselves up will generally further add to the aggression or at the very least, be ineffective. Your first order of business is to de-escalate the level of anger.

Often in our work environment, we are confronted with angry people, co-workers, those we supervise, customers, supervisors and stakeholders. In the majority of the situations, it is to your benefit to reduce the level of anger in the other person.

Before intervening, do a quick assessment to see if you are in the proper frame of mind for an intervention. This generally means can you view this person as someone who is doing the best he or she can to gethis or her needs met at that point in time? Are you of the mind frame that you will not be reduced to his or her level of anger should you intervene? Can you allow that even if you do everything correctly, people may still maintain their anger because it is what works best for them without feeling as if you failed? If the answer to these questions is yes, then proceed.

De-Escalation Techniques

1. Simple Listening: Sometimes all that is needed is to allow the angry person to vent all their anger and frustration to someone who is actually attentive to what they are saying. Do not attempt to say anything. Just listen attentively, nod your head and sometimes give encouragers, such as “Uh huh,” “Go on,” or “Yes. . .” When a person is attempting to get attention with their anger, sometimes all you need to do is to listen until their anger is spent. At that point you may ask a simple question such as, “How can I help you?”

2. Active Listening: Active listening is the process of really attempting to hear, acknowledge and understand what a person is saying. It is a genuine attempt to put yourself in the other person’s situation as best you can. Active listening means you are attending not only to the words the other person is saying but also the underlying emotion, as well as, the accompanying body language.

3. Acknowledgement: Acknowledgement occurs when you can legitimately understand the person’s angry emotion. You could then honestly respond with, “Wow, I can see how something like that could cause some anger!” You might say, “Man, if that happened to me, I might be angry, too.” The tone of your voice is critical in this circumstance. You don’t want to use an excitable tone, as it could further incite the angry behavior–rather use a calming and respectful tone of voice designed to help the other person let go of their angry emotion.

It confirms the legitimacy of the emotion, but not the behavior. You want the angry person to realize that being angry isn’t the problem, the problem is the way he or she is choosing to act out those angry feelings.

4. Apologizing: Apologizing is the fourth of the de-escalation skills. I’m not talking about apologizing for an imaginary wrong. I am talking about sincerely apologizing for anything in the situation that you believe was unjust. It’s simply a statement acknowledging that something occurred that wasn’t right.

I am not asking you to take responsibility for something that wasn’t your fault. For example, if you can’t find anything for which to apologize, you can always say, “I’m so sorry you having such an awful day” or “I’m sorry the situation has you so frustrated.” You can apologize without taking on the blame.

5. Agreeing: Often when people are angry about something, there is at least 2 % truth in what they are saying. When attempting to diffuse someone’s anger, it is important to listen for that 2 % of truth and agree with it. When you agree with the 2% of truth in the angry person’s tirade, you take away the resistance and consequently eliminate the fuel for the fire.

6. Inviting Criticism: Inviting criticism is the final of the de-escalation skills. In this instance you would simply ask the angry person to voice his or her criticism of yourself or the situation more fully. You might say something like, “Go ahead. Tell me everything that has you upset. Don’t hold anything back. I want to hear all you have to say.”

This invitation will sometimes temporarily intensify the angry emotion but if you continue to encourage the person to vent their anger and frustrations, eventually, they will run out of complaints. Just let them vent until their anger is spent. In essence, this is a combination of inviting criticism and simple listening.

You have been presented with six powerful and effective techniques of de-escalation. However, there may be a rare occasion when you are unsuccessful in your attempts to decrease a person’s anger. Your safety should be the primary concern. Don’t get between the angry person and his or her only means of escape and similarly, don’t allow the angry person to block your only means of escape.

Always have a plan or an established way to get help if needed and remember to stay calm. An angry person is generally someone capable of getting out of control. When an out of control person senses they are intimidating and scaring others, it can increase their sense of power and control, resulting in an escalation of the situation. You must stay calm at all times and recognize when it is important to seek assistance.

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Are you prepared for 2013?

 

The next question I posed was; what are you looking towards to, in 2013? She told me about the several parties lined up for the holiday session and how much money she had to spend on new clothes. I joined in briefly to build more rapport, and then asked if she had any other plans after the parties.

“Nothing.” She responded freely.

After cultivating silently on what she had just told me, she looked at me and said;

“I can’t believe I just told you that. Oh my God-I actually have nothing else apart from the parties.”

Her confessions were like a wakeup call about how we all mistake short-term excitement for our long-term goals.

Getting prepared for a New Year, or period, or even a day, requires one to take time and plan. A few relevant questions to ask oneself could be;

Where am I now in regards to my life goals, finances, love, etc?

Am I happy?

What do I want to achieve?

How do I achieve it?

What internal (mental,) and external resources do I have to take me where I want to go?

What if there was nothing else to do and all I had to do was embark on working towards achieving these goals, what is the first thing I would do?

How will I know that I have achieved my goals?

How will I feel?

Could my goals conflict or negatively affect the people I care for?

What is blocking me from taking the first step?

It is equivalent to doing a SWOT analysis (the Strength, Weaknesses, Opportunities and Threats) of yourself in order to establish where you are…what you have and what you have to improve on.

After establishing the details of your goals, it’s helpful to write everything down-including time frames, courses of action, the resources you have; the threats and the first thing you will do to get started.

Remember, you are your biggest resource. Empower and improve yourself on a perpetual basis. You are the only one who can make the changes required to improve your life. This is a limitless world, with inexhaustible opportunities. Everything begins from the mind. What is in your mind?

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How To Effectively Reduce Belly Fat

The first thing you must know about how to effectively reduce belly fat is that there is no magic bullet when it comes to weight loss. Reducing body fat levels requires a three pronged approach that doesn’t come from popping diet pills or gulping down foul tasting drinks. Belly fat also won’t come off by trying to spot reduce only doing sit-ups or crunches. It’s just not possible to spot reduce, so don’t waste your time.

So, the question remains, how do you effectively reduce belly fat? Here is a safe, practical three pronged approach to get rid of belly fat.

1. Healthy Meals. Notice the word diet isn’t part of the equation. That’s because the word diet conjures up visions of carrots and celery and not much else. The word diet gives us nightmares of deprivation and hunger, and that’s not the image we’re looking for with permanent weight loss. Just because the word diet isn’t used does not mean you’re free to gorge on junk food at will. Healthy meals consist of lean protein, lots of vegetables, whole grains and some fruit. Your should consistantly choose foods that are as close as possible to their natural state.

2. Cardiovascular Exercise. Regular cardiovascular exercise will reduce body fat levels. Where should you start? Wallking is great cardio! Put your shoes on and get moving for at least 30 minutes per day. It doesn’t matter how fast or how far you walk in the beginning, the most important point is that you’re moving your body aerobically on a regular basis. If you don’t enjoy walking then ride a bike, rollerskate, jog, run. Participate in whatever aerobic activity you enjoy.

3. Lift Weights. Yes, you did read that correctly! If you’re wondering what lifting weights has to do with effectively reducing belly fat, then read on. Regular weight lifting has several beneficial effects for those folks trying to reduce their body fat levels. Muscles burn extra calories. The more muscle you carry on your frame, the more calories you burn in a 24 hour period which translates into extra fat burning power. Muscles take up about one third less space than fat. Muscles give you the power to carry on your daily activities more effectively and with energy to spare.

Learning how to effectively reduce belly fat isn’t a difficult task. The three principle keys to getting rid of your gut rely on diet, cardiovascular exercise and weight lifting on a regular basis. Remember, you didn’t sprout belly fat overnight and you can’t get rid of belly fat in a day, but you can reduce belly fat if you’re willing to put forth a bit of
effort.

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Questions To Ask On a First Date

 

Well, as you know, going on a first date can be very scary and intimidating. Our minds are overcome with fear and insecurities and we cave in to those emotions.

We’re scared of being rejected, we’re afraid of failure, we’re nervous about saying the wrong thing at the wrong time and we’re anxious about what our date will think of us.

All these anxieties are totally human and completely understandable – but they produce devastating results: they paralyze us and greatly inhibit our ability to behave normally and confidently like we do with our family and with our closest friends.

Our personal fears lead us to the most uncomfortable situation where we feel a terrible lack of confidence, all stressed out, angry and frustrated. The bottom line is that we’re doomed to end up in the most annoying, embarrassing and even humiliating situation, which we all know as that “awkward silence”.

Believe it or not, most of us do have the capacity to carry on a fluid, easy-going and enjoyable conversation with people we have known for years – so, with the right approach, it shouldn’t be any different with the woman we’re on a first date with.

And the right approach is… conversation starters!

Preparing a list of topics and questions that you can use on the first date can do wonders for your dating skills.

When you have an arsenal of conversation starters – it’s very easy to keep the conversation going.

You always have something to say, you develop a lively conversation like there’s nothing to it, you’re not nervous, “stuck” or “blocked” and you can avoid the awkward silence disaster pretty easily.

Here are 10 conversation starters that you can use on your next first date:

·Has any book had a major impact on you?

·What was the best bargain you ever found?

·What’s the most annoying thing someone could do on a first date?

·What’s the most unusual thing you know how to do?

·Is there anything you can’t say “no” to?

·What food could they not pay you enough to eat?

·Who are your cult heroes? Why?

·What was the craziest thing you ever did when you were a kid?

·If you could have any job in the world, what would it be?

·What would be the title of your biography?

There are so many conversation starters that can work for you fantastically. They can serve as a great base for a flowing, lively, enjoyable conversation that can let your date learn about the “real you” while you leave all the pressure, anxiety and fear behind you.

Don’t leave home to go out on a first date empty-handed. Sit down, prepare some great conversation starters, memorize and practice them and your chances for a great date will increase drastically

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Avishai Fuksman is author of “The Date Saver”, a downloadable guide for men that includes hundreds of first date conversation starters. To learn more, visit: www.TheDateSaver.com

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As you make your Joomla! site you will control the details of the display using options also referred to as parameters. Options control everything from whether the author’s name is displayed to who can view what to the number of items shown on a list.

Default options for each component are changed using the Options button on the component toolbar.

Options can also be set on an individual item, such as an article or contact and in menu links.

If you are happy with how your site looks, it is fine to leave all of the options set to the defaults that were created when your site was installed. As you become more experienced with Joomla you will use options more.

 

Options

Login Module

This module displays a username and password login form. It also displays a link to retrieve a forgotten password. If user registration is enabled (in the Global Configuration settings), another link will be shown to enable self-registration for users. Help

{loadmodule login,login}

Login Module

Random Image Module

This module displays a random image from your chosen image directory. Help

{loadmodule random_image,Random Image}

Random Image Module

Most Read Content

This module shows a list of the currently published Articles which have the highest number of page views. Help

{loadmodule articles_popular,Articles Most Read}

Most Read Content

Getting Help

There are lots of places you can get help with Joomla!. In many places in your site administrator you will see the help icon. Click on this for more information about the options and functions of items on your screen. Other places to get help are:

• Support Forums
• Documentation
• Professionals
• Books

Getting Help

Latest Articles Module

This module shows a list of the most recently published and current Articles. Some that are shown may have expired even though they are the most recent. Help

{loadmodule articles_latest,Latest News}

Latest Articles Module

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